However, on a slightly unrelated note to your post, I prefer to have a good mixture of adlibbers and planners in a company. planners make fantastic project managers.

I have found some of the planners to be not spontaneous and could not give instantaneous replies when faced with critical questions. However they are very good at writing good blog posts and give a stunning work, if given enough time and questions are pre-known.

A similar comparison that I could think of is: Golf players and Baseball players. Golf players are planners and Baseball players are adlibbers. Golf needs careful planning and slow, clear thorough execution. Baseball needs timing and on-the-spot smart reflexes.

Also, I honestly wasn’t thinking of kids very much when I wrote this. Five or 10 years ago, when none of my friends had kids, there were clearly already planners and adlibbers.

I think I might have been a planner by nature – I don’t know because I grew up with two extreme adlibbers. I’ve always been comfortable with people calling and saying “hey, want to hang out now?” (I was used to moving to a different country on a whim!) But my SO is much more structured. He doesn’t want to go out right now on a whim. So I plan things with him to make sure I get the things I want to do with him on his schedule!